The Long Game: What Changing Your Anger Actually Feels Like I want to tell you about a Tuesday evening a few weeks ago. I’d had a heavy session with my psychotherapist that afternoon. We’d been working through Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR), a process that involves sitting with your nervous system and letting it respond to […]
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The Relationships You’re Losing to Anger (And Why) Anger rarely destroys a relationship in a single blow. That’s the version we think about. The explosion. The thing that can’t be taken back. But in my experience, that’s not usually how it works. What I see more often is erosion. Slow, quiet, almost invisible. A conversation
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The Silent Storm: When Male Anger Is Really Depression Here’s what most people see when a man is struggling. They see the anger. The short fuse. The drinking that’s crept up. The nights he can’t sleep and the mornings he’s impossible to be around. They see a man being difficult. A man who needs managing.
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The Body Doesn’t Lie: What Your Anger Is Really Doing He came to see me about his stomach. He was a restaurant manager. Long hours, late finishes, eating at midnight because that was when the shift ended. His IBS had been getting worse for months. Bloating, pain, unpredictable symptoms. He’d tried cutting foods out. He’d
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Ten boxes of paracetamol. A doctor explores what anger is really protecting and the one question that changes everything.
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Most men I work with don’t think they have an anger problem. They’re right — the man screaming in the street isn’t them. But anger isn’t just that. Here’s what it really looks like, and why understanding your specific anger style is the first step to changing it.
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