How Can I Be More Like Myself?
The way out of the drama triangle isn’t fixing the other person — it’s changing your own seat. The Winner’s Triangle gives you three new roles: Creator, Challenger, and Coach.
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The Buzz That Nearly Broke Me
Nobody stays in one seat of the Drama Triangle for long. Here’s why people rotate through Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor — including my own story of being the Hero, and what it cost me.
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The Patient Who Stormed Out — And What It Taught Me
Why the people around you — a partner, an ex, a colleague — can seem helpful one moment and demanding or accusing the next. It’s not random. It’s a pattern with a name, and once you can see it, you can stop unconsciously feeding it.
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The Clouds Don’t Care About Your To-Do List
The Clouds Don’t Care About Your To-Do List When did you last do something with absolutely no purpose other than it felt good? I ask because I’ve just come back from a few weeks off, and I’ve been turning that question over the whole drive home. Watch Out for the “Shoulds” I feel like I
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The Version of You That Learned to Fit In
The version of you that learned to fit in at school is probably still running. Here’s where the mask came from, what it costs, and what becomes possible when it comes down.
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The Friends Who Never Said Goodbye
Male friendships rarely end with a row. They fade, diverge, or quietly dissolve. Here’s why men rarely grieve them, and why that matters.
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Where Did Your Mates Go? Male Friendship at 40
A reader’s confession of loneliness despite a happy marriage opens this look at why male friendships quietly fade in your 40s, and what to do about it.
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What I learned when I stopped ‘doing’
What I learned when I stopped ‘doing’ I’m writing this during my daughter’s guitar lesson. The Tiredness Trap series has come to an end, and for the first time in a while, I have nothing scheduled to write about. So here’s the question I’ve been sitting with: why does “being lost” feel like a problem,
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The Tiredness Trap Week 7: The Long Refuel
Seven weeks on exhaustion, interrupted by exhaustion. Dr Ed Rainbow on what recovery actually feels like, what restoration requires, and where the work goes from here.
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The Tiredness Trap Week 6: What Exhaustion Costs the People Around You
Exhaustion isn’t a private experience. Dr Ed Rainbow on the man who comes home and disappears, the intergenerational pattern, and what chronic depletion actually costs a relationship.
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